They don’t happen often but they are memorable. Yesterday, a colleague shared with me how elephants are trained with a chain and peg as babies and it stays with them all of their life. They are chained to a steel peg as a baby so they cannot stray as the chain causes pain and the steel peg is strong enough to hold them. As they age, they are still chained but with a wooden peg. They are strong enough to break the chain from the wooden peg but the fear from their youth prevents them from doing so.
He applied this to me and my life. It had a profound impact. Now, let’s do something about that.
37 but there is still nothing like my mom making dinner for me. It might be something as simple as a grilled cheese sandwich but I’ve never had one as good as hers.
In my mind I am complaining. In my mind I am stressed. Externally, I am stressed. There is a lot in my life going on right now. Lots of changes, lots of adjustments, lots of things to do. However, I’m not the first person to go through any of these changes. Besides that, it’s not about me. I have a wife and kid on the way. My wife is doing all the work of carrying the baby and dealing with the body changes and all the hormonal changes. I’m just standing by being selfish. So John, when you feel stressed, selfish, and feel like complaining, just shut up.
It’s what I would consider the 50% to 60% stage of my life. I don’t know if it’s just a mid life crisis thing but in not really sure what I’m good at currently. I believe I gave an addictive personality yet I lack commitment. Does that even make sense? I’m not a very thoughtful person either. Nor am I sociable.
It would actually make perfect sense that those promoted to leadership positions might often be those who on the surface appear to be agreeable, diplomatic and supportive, yet who are actually dishonest, backstabbing saboteurs behind the scenes.”
Read this the other day. Some key take aways for me were:
Know the history
Make your boss look good
Get to work early
Constantly test your value on the market
Study the industry
Become the company